The First Dance: How to Pick the Song

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When it comes to your wedding, there are moments that make up the highlights of the day. Every moment becomes an opportunity for you and your partner to make memories, declare your love, while being present to take in the joy of having loved ones present with you. There are a few moments when you may want to rise up to the challenges, but make sure you see the big picture as the celebratory expression that it is. You can then decide on how you make the impressions you want to make. In other words, “bring it,” but do it gracefully.

Choosing the right song for the first dance is quite important. However, it is a display of your affection and commitment to eachother first, while its connotation to others is secondary. The song you pick must have the deepest meaning to you and not how others may see it.

Ask yourself: What is the connection you two have to the song? Does it evoke memories? How does it speak to you as a couple?

It’s a song marking the happiest occasion of your life. Treat it as a creative, fun activity and not some stressful project.

At Metropol Banquet Hall we’ve seen a thing or too and we thought we chime in on this topic. Here are a few tips to help you with choosing the right song.

The Thematic Aspect: How formal or casual is the event? Does the song go with theme of the night, the guests list? Is this strictly a family affair or will co-workers, executives from your workplace and other people such as acquaintances (as in not close friends and besties) are in attendance? Therefore choosing songs with risqué lyrics may not be the right thing to do.

What the Song Represents: Think about your first date, that first kiss or when the words “I love you,” “wife,” and “husband” where used by either one of you. It should evoke a message, even if a very personal one only the two of you know, like a wink and a nod. Otherwise, it should be more transparent and perhaps a way of honoring your family, your heritage and where you come from.

Live Band vs. DJ: Is this a song the band at your wedding can perform? More importantly, can the lead singer sing it properly or will his voice, as commanding as it may be, take away from the impact the original artist and the recording carries? In that case, go with the original recording. The DJ can cue it and press play. If there is a live band, they can continue performing after your special song ends.

Read the Lyrics: Can you believe it is the step many couples skip, and then at the last minute, they suddenly realize, “Oh wait, this is not a love song. He is singing about how she left him,” or it is not even a song about romance and affection, or not even in the vicinity of those topics? Today, with A-Z Lyrics and all sorts of online sources you can search and pull up the words to almost any song and see if they fit your ideals.

Make a List: After putting your top 10 or top 20 tunes as a list of potential songs, review and share with your partner, and maybe even a very few of your closest friends. If they know you really well, maybe they can help out. Again, it depends who you want involved in this process.

Consider the Running Time: Is the song more than 3 minutes? Can you, and more importantly, the man in your life keep up with a song that goes longer? Make the point and get the party rolling by allowing friends and guests to take the floor.

Get Help: There are lots of online wedding magazines, YouTube playlists, Top picks by DJs you can tap into. Additionally, itunes and Spotify can also be very helpful.

Ask or Hire a Dance Teacher: Don’t assume that just because you know how to cut the rug and move to the melody and the rhythm, your partner can do as flawlessly. He or she may not feel very forthcoming. Just ask and see if you should take a few lessons. Look at this as yet another romantic, adventurous experience you do together, helping you bond and create another beautiful page in your memories.

What You Groove In: If you chose the fitted shirt and tux, especially a wedding dress with limited breathing room, the attire you wear may not be as maneuverable for the Hustle or a tune best fit for a performance on So You Think You Can Dance.

MAROON 5 perform “Sugar,” live at Metropol Banquet, as a part of their official music video for the song.

Here are the most requested Wedding Songs of 2016 so far.

Hello – Adele

How Long Will I love you – Ellie Goulding

I won’t Give Up – Jason Mraz

I’m Yours – Jason Mraz

Coming Home – Leon Bridges

Grow Old with Me – Tom Odell

Let’s Stay Together – Maroon 5

A Thousand Years – Christina Perri

Thinking Out Loud Ed Sheeran

Stay with Me – Sam Smith

All of Me – John Legend

And a few classics that never get old:

At Last – Etta James

Can’t Help Falling in Love – Elvis Presley

Wonderful Tonight – Eric Clapton

Fly me to the Moon – Frank Sinatra

Unchained Melody – Righteous Brothers

Remember to not put pressure on yourself. This is supposed to be one of the many ways you brighten up your special day, and the moments you create, at your own pace, your way. Nothing should be imposed or become a headache just because others expect you to do it. Take this opportunity to express who you really are, what you want to communicate to your life partner and your guests, and above all, have a ball.

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